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Custody Evaluation
BY: Maury D. Beaulier
In most counties when there is a custody dispute,
the Court appoints a custody evaluator. That evaluator may work for Court
Services or may be a private individual or attorney called a Guardian Ad Litem.
In a “Custody Evaluation” an evaluator meets with the parties and evaluates
the custody issues based on the factors for determining custody that are spelled
out by Minnesota Statutes which are appended at the end of this article. Once
the custody evaluation is complete the evaluator submits a report to the Court
which will recommend a custody and visitation schedule that the evaluator
believes is in the child’s best interests.
This report is a critical element
of your case. Although custody studies may be challenged in court, many Judge’s
defer to the recommendations of the evaluator because, unlike the parties, they
are deemed to be an independent witness without any personal Interest in the
outcome. As a result how you relate your case to the evaluator is very
important.
For more specific information about Hennepin County's process, go to:
http://www.nvo.com/beaulier/custody
inhennepincounty
TWO TYPES OF CUSTODY
As you may know, there are two types of custody:
Legal and Physical.
Legal custody refers
to the right of the parents to participate in important decisions in the lives
of their child(ren). This specifically includes decisions related to schooling,
medical care, religion, extra-curricular activities and other important events.
There is a very strong presumption under Minnesota law that these
responsibilities should be shared by the parties. The only time that legal
custody is not shared is when the parties demonstrate a complete inability to
communicate or where there has been domestic abuse.
Physical custody
is what most people think of when they hear the term custody. It refers to the
primary physical residence where the child will live. There is a presumption
under Minnesota law favoring sole physical custody to one parent or the other.
This presumption is based upon psychological studies that have indicated that
children respond better when their physical environment is consistent.
STANDARD FOR GAINING CUSTODY
When custody is being determined for the first
time, the Court must determine what is in the child(ren)’s best interests. To
determine what is in the child(ren)’s best interest, the court weights
thirteen factors that are set out in Minnesota Statutes (See attachment to this
letter). As you may note, the factor’s are less than clear. As a result, the
way you present your case to the custody evaluator is important.
Once custody has been determined and a change of
custody is requested, the burden on the party seeking to change custody is much
higher. The Court must find that there has been endangerment OR
that the child has been integrated into the household of the non-custodial
parent by agreement of the parties AND that the benefit of the change
outweighs the difficulties created by the change.
WORKING WITH CUSTODY EVALUATORS
In most cases, a custody study will be carried
out by county workers or an independent Guardian Ad Litem. The custody evaluator
will create a report regarding what he/she believes is in the child(ren)’s
best interests. “Best interests” of the child are magic words
in custody proceedings since that is the standard that is used to make custody
decisions. What is in the best interests of the child is determined by looking
at thirteen factor specified by Minnesota Statutes. You will find those factors
and the statute a the end of this article.
The custody evaluator often has broad power to
require psychological testing, chemical dependency evaluations and urinalysis
tests. How you interact with the custody evaluator may be a critical element of
your custody case.
- Custody evaluators will oftentimes make
you believe that they agree with your side of the case. This is done so
that you drop your guard. Never assume that the evaluator’s
report will favor your position.
- Custody evaluators are also people. That
means they react to personalities. You are best able to present your
case to an evaluator if you appear open and honest.
- Do not argue
with the evaluator. Make eye contact and listen when they speak. This
establishes a connection. It may help to nod your head as they speak even
if you disagree with what they are saying. When you disagree, tell them
“I see your point, but...” or agree first “I agree, but would you
consider this to be important....”
- The custody evaluator does not care about
good guys and bad guys. The evaluator cares about what is in the
“best interests of the child(ren).” To relate your case to
the evaluator, you must speak his/her language. Your statements must
relate in some way to what is best for the child not the parent. For
example, the statement, “my husband drinks too much”, is incomplete.
It does not relate how the drinking affects the child(ren). Always
relate how the conduct affects the child(ren). A better statement would
be:
“My husband drinks too much. Because of
that, he is rarely home and when he is, he is:.... abusive....spends little
quality time with the children....is unable to help the kids with their
homework....”
- Provide the evaluator with the documents
supporting your statements.
- Provide the evaluator with the names of
collateral contacts, people who are aware of your strong points as a
parent and the other party’s weak points. (It is usually better not to
include relatives as part of your contacts since they may have a bias).
- ALWAYS ASSUME
when
you go to court or visit a custody evaluator that you may be ordered to
provide a urine sample for testing to determine if you have used drugs or
alcohol.
CUSTODY STUDY ELEMENTS
Although each custody evaluator may have a
slightly different approach to performing custody evaluations there are some
things you should expect :
Initial Interview with Evaluator. At
the initial interview, the evaluator will discuss at length the past history
of care with the child. The evaluator will attempt to determine who was the
primary caretaker.
BE PREPARED! At the initial interview
arrive prepared with a chronology of events clearly set out.
Home Visits. The
evaluator will make at least one home visit to watch you interact with your
child(ren). The evaluator is watching to see:
- Whether you actively play with and
interact with your child;
- Whether you set appropriate boundaries
for the child and whether the child obeys those boundaries;
- Child’s reaction to the parent;
- Condition of the home environment.
Collateral Contacts.
The evaluator will ask for a list of persons that you think the evaluator
should contact. Family members are usually not good contact since they may
be biased in your favor. Where possible use independent contacts such as
counselors, daycare providers, and school teachers.
Alcohol Assessments. Where
there are allegations of alcohol or drug abuse, the evaluator may refer you
to a counselor for a chemical dependency evaluation. It is important that
you cooperate in that process.
Psychological Evaluations.
Where there are allegations of emotional or anger problems, the evaluator
may refer you to a counselor or psychologist for a psychological evaluation.
It is important that you cooperate in that process. Make sure that you
communicate with the evaluator or counselor regarding any and all
appointments. Budget enough time to complete and testing that is required. A
failure to cooperate will appear in the evaluation.
WHAT YOU SHOULD TRY TO DEMONSTRATE
Remember, there are six magic words in custody
evaluations.- “Best Interests of the Minor Child”. Custody evaluators
listen for issues that relate to that phrase. You should relate how each of your
proposals is beneficial to your child(ren). Wherever possible use phrases that
mean “best interest of the minor child” without using those exact words.
Using the exact words sounds too legalistic and prepared. Your statements should
sound more natural.
There are certain things that evaluators look for
in their custody evaluation. You should discuss these issues with the evaluator
truthfully since the evaluator will, to a degree, assess your credibility. The
issues you should be prepared to raise are the following:
Primary Caretaker. Where
has the child lived since birth? What was the extent of contact each parent
had at each phase of the child’s life? What responsibilities did each
parent have?
The best way to support the contention that
you provided care for the minor child is through independent documentation.
The other parent will no doubt contradict your assertions that you provided
much of the care. Independent documentation may include:
- Daycare or school records
demonstrating
drop off and pick ups or attendance at parent-teacher conferences. Even
if you do not have documents demonstrating attendance at school
functions at least verify the dates of the conferences and
familiarize yourself with the daycare provider’s or teacher’s names.
The more information you are able to provide in that regard the more
credible you will appear as an active parent.
- Medical records
may
document which parent brought the child in for a medical or dental
appointment. If you can acquire these records prior to meeting with
the evaluator, do so.
- Homework assignments or report cards
may
require a parental signature before they are submitted at school. That
signature may provide independent verification that the parent
reviewed or was actively involved in the child’s schooling. Wherever
possible acquire and retain these documents. Provide them to the
custody evaluator to support your claims that you were actively
involved in the child(ren)’s schooling.
- Be able to relate who the
child(ren)’s friends are and what activities they enjoy in
detail.
Stability. The
evaluator will be interested in which parent is able to provide the greater
stability for the child. Stability includes a stable residence and a stable
job. You may wish to document the ways in which you have provided greater
stability in the past. You obviously will not emphasize those areas that do
not favor you.
To effectively present the areas where you
have provided or are able to provide more stability, you may wish to create
a detailed charts. Visual aids help to present a clear picture to the
evaluator. For example you may wish to create a chronological chart
regarding each parent’s residence and how many times the child has changed
residences or schools. You may also wish to create a summary of each parent’s
employment to demonstrate stable financial circumstances. Independent
verification is also very helpful. Where possible, you may wish to
procure documents demonstrating residence changes such as leases, purchase
agreements or real estate taxes.
Endangerment or Neglect. If
you are raising issues of endangerment you must relate specific incidents.
Endangerment may be physical, emotional or developmental. A calendar may be
helpful to document the dates of the incidents. Documentation can carry
critical weight with this type of allegation. Documents may include:
- Medical reports documenting injuries
from
abuse or lack of supervision;
- Medical reports documenting
complications because of neglect
-
health issues such as asthma from cigarettes smoke or lice from lack
of hygiene.
- Police reports relating to police
calls
to the other parent’s
home;
- Any child protection reports;
- Counseling records
for
the child or the parent;
- The other parent’s criminal or
driving record;
- The criminal or driving record
of individuals that have significant contact with the minor
child(ren);
- School records
may
document attendance problems, school performance problems, counseling
issues or erratic child behavior while in the other parent’s care or
after returning from the other parent’s care.
REMEMBER:
Endangerment only exists if you tie the other parent’s conduct into the
child’s care and the child’s best interests. For example, if you
allege the other parent has an alcohol problem. It only will be effective if
you can relate specific incidents where the alcohol use or abuse affected
the minor child(ren). (eg. The parent passed out on the couch while the
child played unsupervised. The parent drove the child in the car while
intoxicated. The parent was out partying consistently while the child was be
cared for by a stranger.)
Parenting Plan.
The custody evaluator will want to know what your proposal is for parenting.
You should be prepared with research, facts and answers. You may wish to
write out your answers to the following questions so that your response
seems thought out. Do not over prepare, your response should not sound
mechanical. The answers should include:
- Where will the child live? Why is that
in the child’s best interests?
- What school will the child attend?
- Why is that in the child’s best
interests?
- What will your work schedule be?
- Will that allow you sufficient time to
supervise the child?
- What schedule do you propose for the
other parents?
- How does that schedule provide
stability?
- Why is that schedule in the child’s
best interests? (Remember: The custody evaluator is also
looking at which parent is more likely to facilitate contact with
the other parent. If you appear to be an unreasonable obstructionist
with regard to the other parent’s contact, it may be used against
you.)
PARENTING NOTEBOOKS.
In a custody proceeding it is important to
maintain a notebook including dates that events occur relating to the care of
your child(ren). What is the daily routine? Who takes them to the doctor? Who
takes them to school activities? List any concerns regarding the other party’s
parenting including the method of discipline, drug use, alcohol use,
disabilities or neglect.
PRIVATE CUSTODY EVALUATIONS.
You may also have a private custody evaluation
performed by an independent professional. Oftentimes the only way to combat a
biased or unfavorable custody evaluation is with a private custody evaluation.
Custody evaluations can be costly and may run anywhere from $2,000 to $8,000.
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