How to Prepare for a Custody Evaluation?
How to Prepare for a Custody Evaluation?
By Dr. Reena Sommer
Custody evaluations are very important in determining child custody and
access during contested divorce proceedings. Divorce courts give considerable
weight to the recommendations of the evaluator.
Below are some guidelines that will assist when you prepare for your custody
evaluation with the expectation of ending your custody battle.
● Arrive on time at your custody evaluation interview.
● Dress neatly and conservatively.
● Be honest. The custody evaluator will likely check out your statements with
collaterals and/or other sources.
● If the custody evaluator chooses to use psychological testing, ABSOLUTELY
answer honestly. The tests are designed to detect defensiveness and lies and
unless you are an expert in psychometric testing, you are unlikely to fool them.
● Be sincere. The custody evaluator can usually detect over embellishment and
● It's all right to be nervous; most people are.
● It's all right to cry and/or show emotion; many people do.
● Answer questions directly and to the point.
● Make sure you pay attention to what the evaluator is asking.
● Take your time when answering a question. If you do not understand what is being
asked, feel free to ask the evaluator to explain what he/she means.
● If the custody evaluator asks that you provide additional documentation, do so
as promptly as possible or communicate any concerns about getting it.
● If you provide the custody evaluator with names of collaterals, it is a good
idea to inform them in advance that they may be contacted so that they can
prepare to speak on your behalf.
● If the custody evaluator is observing you with your child(ren), be attentive to
their needs and focus on their interests and not yours.
● Present yourself as being reasonable and placing the concerns of your child(ren)
The following is a list of things to avoid doing during a custody and access
DO NOT speak badly of your spouse/partner unless the custody evaluator
asks you to comment on what you perceive to be the problems between you.
DO NOT make threatening comments about your spouse/partner or anyone else
to the evaluator.
DO NOT harass the custody evaluator with phone calls.
DO NOT drop by the evaluator's office without an appointment.
DO NOT call the custody evaluator to see if the report is completed.
DO NOT prep your child(ren) to say negative things about their other
parent. The custody evaluator has ways of telling if this has happened.
Custody evaluators recognize the stress people are under during this process and
take this into account when assessing family members. If you are feeling
stressed and anxious, it is all right to acknowledge it and allow the custody
evaluator to help allay some of your concerns.
Custody evaluators recognizes that there are no perfect parents and his or her
recommendations should be directed at determining the best parenting arrangement
to meet your child(ren)'s needs.
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