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September 2006 - Back to School, Back to Schedules

As your child heads back to school, this is a good time to re-evaluate and tweak your parenting schedule. Fall is a time of fresh starts and new beginnings and a chance to get organized in all aspects of your life.

If your child is starting school, it will be an adjustment for all of you. Your ex may have had mid-week visitation and this may become more difficult. If your child has always slept over at the other parent’s house mid-week, continuing this will offer a sense of continuity, as long as getting the child to and from school is easy. Midweek evening visits may need to be adjusted for earlier bedtimes.

Getting used to a school schedule takes time. If your child was not in preschool, none of you are used to your child being away all day. Even if your child went to preschool, real school is now mandatory, whereas you could pull your child out of preschool on a whim. It’s important that your child have the opportunity to sleep well at night, eat a healthy breakfast, and have time after school to unwind. This may mean adjusting your visitation schedule. Allowing longer, less frequent visits can sometimes help. Instead of seeing the other parent three times a week, a schedule that allows for alternate weekends might make more sense now.

After School Activities
After school activities are one of the biggest curveballs your visitation plan will be facing. It’s important to find a balance that allows your child the opportunity to explore and develop his or her interests, while also finding time to spend with the non-custodial parent. Sit down with a calendar and see how the activities fall and compare this to your planned visitation schedule. It is perfectly ok for a child to have a scheduled activity during the non-custodial parent’s planned time, as long as that parent is able to handle the necessary transportation.

Having both parents involved in the child’s activities is the ideal plan. However, depending on the scheduling, it might make sense for the non-custodial parent to be in charge of something like dance classes, which generally happen on a single scheduled day per week, and have the custodial parent manage an activity such as soccer which might have games and practices scheduled at unpredictable times and places. Having one parent in charge of an activity does not mean the other can’t come and watch and cheer.

Handling Homework
As school starts up, so too does the homework load. Both parents should participate in homework if possible. This can be done by making sure that the parent the child is with supervises that day’s homework. Things can get confusing with work going to both households and it takes organizational skills to make sure everything gets done and is returned to school on time. You might also make arrangements for one parent to handle projects in certain subject matters that match that parent’s area of expertise.

Create Continuity
Going to school is hard work and kids need to be able to focus their energies on learning. Minimizing family stress can help your child do his or her best in school. Try to keep the visitation schedule running smoothly with as little ups and downs as possible. Having a regular schedule will help your child feel secure and best able to succeed in school. tries to provide quality information, but cannot guarantee the accuracy, completeness or adequacy of the information, opinions or other content posted on the site. It is not intended as a substitute for and should not be relied upon as legal, financial, accounting, tax, medical or other professional advice. It should not be construed as establishing a professional-client or professional-patient relationship. The applicability of legal principles is subject to amendment by the legislature, interpretation by the courts and different application by different judges and may differ substantially in individual situations or different states. Before acting on what you have read, it is important to obtain appropriate professional advice about your particular situation and facts. Access to and use of is subject to additional Terms and Conditions. is a secure site and respects your Privacy.

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